I first entered the transgender world in 2015 as Tasmin when my wife Monica and I attended the Transliving International 2015 Spring Event. Apart from a passing interests in female clothing during childhood, I progressed to the perils, stresses and delights of meeting and having girlfriends. Thoughts of replicating dressing as a female in adulthood never subsequently crossed my mind. We established new friendships at that Eastbourne weekend and were soon attending monthly meetings at Salisbury, Totton Disco and Lyndhurst. In July 2016 we started a new monthly meeting group in Dorset at Wimborne Minster – ‘Wimborne Girls’.
From the outset, Monica was fully supportive of me and participated in all things transgender. Consequently, we would go everywhere together as two girls, having great fun, using our confidence and personalities to interact with everybody we met along the way. This continues to this day. Over the years when out and about in Salisbury, whether walking down the street or having a coffee, it has been fantastic to be approached by mature, welldressed ladies who have spontaneously complimented me, remarking how stunning Tasmin looks. A wonderful accolade for a t-girl to receive from somebody who is the genuine article. As t-girls, we have different ideas and approaches as to how we should appear in public. The approach of many is to dress in classic female attire and blend in with the populace on an everyday basis. There is nothing wrong with that of course. However, I prefer to make a statement and stand out from the crowd. For me, it is part of the fun of being trans. If, in doing so, one can transmit that positive fun aspect to the general public, then, in most cases, they will embrace what you are doing and the positivity that goes with it.